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Tuesday, July 12, 2016

7 Ways to Persist When Everything in You Wants to Give Up


Have you ever felt like your lungs were going to explode?
That’s what it felt like during my hike up Machu Picchu.
The ancient city sits more than 2,400 meters above sea level and my group eagerly started climbing just after 5 a.m. I ended up alone, behind the group, with more than 1,100 meters left to go.
I never imagined the journey would be so difficult (evidenced by the shoes I chose to wear). I worked out regularly, but that didn’t prepare me for the altitude. I couldn’t seem to get enough air.
I wanted to give up. My body was begging me to stop. My weary mind wanted to follow suit.
But I persisted. And I made it to the top—lungs and heart intact.
Here are the seven things that helped me keep going that day, when everything in me wanted to quit. If you find yourself in a situation where you want to give up, these lessons can help you, too.

1. Ignore everyone else.
In the beginning of the climb, I only saw the people passing me. Every time I saw someone hiking with ease, I felt bad about myself. But when I stopped worrying and stopped comparing everyone else’s journey to my own, I began to focus on my own mission and how I was going to achieve it.
As you  work toward your dream, it can be easy to get distracted when you see others achieving their goals easier, faster, better than you. It can make you feel inadequate and unsatisfied with your own progress. But when it comes to conquering a goal, what’s happening with others is irrelevant when it detracts from your ability to move forward.
When tackling a difficult task, you need every ounce of energy you can muster. Make sure to channel it to a place that will propel you forward.

2. Become your own biggest supporter.
When I started the hike, I wasn’t alone. But within 10 minutes, I was behind and alone. At first I was frustrated my companions abandoned me in my time of need. But then I realized my burden wasn’t theirs to bear.
Although it can be energizing to have others around to motivate and support you, having them there is a luxury, not a requirement. That lesson allowed me to turn inward and find in myself the strength and determination to keep going. I began to encourage and high-five myself with every step.

Sometimes on the road to success, you have to walk alone. If you find yourself in that position, find a way to give yourself what you need to continue.

3. Stop and appreciate the little things.
I began the hike before the sun was up. As I continued to climb, it started to peek around the mountain, giving glimpses of the beauty all around me. It was magical. During the catch-my-breath breaks, I marveled at the privilege of seeing nature in all her beauty. In those moments, I gave no thought to my struggle. I was too busy being grateful ,for being right there.
It can be easy to focus all your energy on reaching your ultimate goal. But if the only thing you can see is your end destination, you’ll miss the beauty of the journey along the way. The new experiences and welcome surprises provide much-needed fuel to keep going.

4. Focus on the next step.
It discouraged me to think how far away I was from the top. So I reframed my goal into mini-milestones that made the next steps more manageable. Just take one more step, I thought. OK, now just get over to those stones. Alright, once you get to that bench you can stop and rest for a few minutes.
When your goal seems too big it can feel impossible, which opens the door for resistance to creep in. By breaking your target into bite-sized pieces, you can keep yourself in motion and build momentum.

5. Throw your watch out the window.
Before the trek, I read that most people make it to the top of Machu Picchu in about 45 to 60 minutes. It took me longer. When I focused on the time it was supposed to take, I was frustrated at myself for not being good enough or fast enough. But nobody cared how long it took me to get to the top and I shouldn’t have, either. All that mattered was completing my journey.
As you work on reaching your goals, stop looking at the clock. Stop measuring yourself against someone or something else. It will only serve to distract you from focusing on what you need to do right now to advance.

6. Stop looking for a way out.
Not everyone who goes to Machu Picchu hikes. You can take a bus straight to the top and save yourself the emotional and physical strain. Early on in my climb, I thought about retreating or waving down one of the buses on their way up.
When your pain is at the forefront, it is natural to want to make it go away. But when you invest time looking for a way to abort your journey, you waste precious energy that could be used to help you  overcome momentary pain and discomfort for long-term growth.

7. Acknowledge your limitations.
I had to be honest with myself. I was having trouble getting air and I couldn't keep the pace of the group. Pushing my body to the limit by trying to keep a faster pace wasn’t going to go well for me. My path needed to be different, and that’s OK. After implementing my new strategy, the journey was less grueling. Your road to success might not look like everyone else’s. That’s OK. Everyone’s situation is different. Instead acknowledge where you are, so you can give yourself what you need to be successful .
As you work to achieve your goals, there will be obstacles, bumps and bruises along the way. When the journey becomes more uncomfortable than what you are used to, it can be easy to throw in the towel and retreat.
But if you follow these lessons, you can find the strength to keep going in the midst of difficulty. And when you persist, you’ll discover the reward was worth the effort.

(Sonia Thompson/www.success.com)


Thursday, April 30, 2015

What is Success? 4 Questions To Ponder

What is Success? – 4 Questions To Ponder

What is Success? – 4 Questions To Ponder
I have a BIG question for you today…What is Success?
What is the true meaning of success? How do you measure it? How do you know when you have achieved it?
Let’s explore this big question by pondering a few smaller questions shall we…

Is Success Defined By How Much Money You Make?

I used to believe that I could measure my success and self-worth by how much money I had, if only I was a millionaire, then my life would be perfect, then I would be able to declare myself successful!!!
The truth is that when your only motivation is money you can lose focus on the things in life that really matter. Things like having a true sense of purpose that nurtures your psychological and spiritual well-being.
While money is really important in today’s world, the bottom line is if you put all your focus is on acquiring money, you can feel very empty inside.

Is Success Defined By a Job Title?

It’s really easy to get caught up on what’s called the Hedonic Treadmill, that’s where you think the next big thing will make you successful, only to realize when you get there that it doesn’t, so you go after the next big thing…and the next…
Part of this treadmill is believing extrinsic factors such as the next big promotion will finally stamp you with that elusive success title.
I’ve chased the corporate job titles, and gotten them, but this perpetual treadmill just keeps going, it never stops, you are never satisfied with what you have achieved.
This will go on indefinitely as long as you’re measuring your success by extrinsic factors such as fame, fortune, and power.

 Is Success To Be Achieved at The Expense of All Else?

I have fallen into this trap, and believe me it caused me terrible pain (and the loss of an incredible woman). Trust me on this…it hurts.
The truth of the matter is that we must learn to take time for ourselves, our families, and our close relationships.
Professional athletes know how important it is to train intensely, but they also understand that without rest their bodies will fail them.

 Is Success Defined by Never Making a Mistake?

 Many people are paralyzed by the fear of failure. This often causes them to work for hours on very insignificant matters, they put in a lot of activity, but they accomplish nothing.
Others fall into the procrastination trap where they avoid starting a task for fear they won’t do it well enough.
Don’t think that to be successful you must be perfect, the result of that will be delaying publishing your book, giving that speech, or releasing that new product because you are constantly trying to make it perfect.

 In Summary

What is success?
Success is a beautiful sweet journey and not a destination. Success is the constant realization of a worthwhile dream. Success is not only based on your profits, but more importantly on the meaningful contribution you make serving your purpose in life. How do you use your unique gifts and talents in service to others? How do you contribute to making the world a better place?
Success means knowing what is most valuable to you, it means knowing what your worthwhile dream is, and diligently, patiently, persistently, and playfully working toward it an a consistent day-to-day basis.
So what is success to me? Here is how I define my own personal success; “Success is diligently working toward my big dreams by taking consistent, inspired, and measurable daily action towards my short term goals
There, that is it for me. It is not the outcome of the actions I take, because they vary, and if I don’t like the outcome I change the action. The success lies in taking the action every day!!!
Time for a bit of introspection…What is success to you? How do you define success for yourself?
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Saturday, April 25, 2015

6 Destructive Habits that Blocks Your Success

Setting Goals – 6 Destructive Habits You Must Avoid

Setting Goals – 6 Destructive Habits You Must Avoid
Have you ever failed to achieve something because you were setting goals you could not achieve?
I know I have… many times… and it made me feel bad!!!
Like most other people I felt cheated when I failed in the past. I blamed other people, I made excuses.
I found it difficult to look in the mirror when I failed, and I didn’t recognize the true source of my failure – setting goals I could never reach.
Did you know that feeling really good (being happy) is a “forgotten ingredient” to being successful (and achieving all your goals)? I didn’t know that at first, but then my research led me to discover that setting goals (and achieving them) is something that happy people know how to do…
The way you go about setting goals will make or break your success (and happiness).
When setting goals there are 6 common destructive habits that we have been wrongly taught in the past. Which of these goal-destroying habits have kept you from success in the past?

1. Setting an Unreachable Desire

Ok so there is the old saying that if you want to succeed, then you need to shoot for the stars. After all, aim for the stars and miss you’re bound to maybe hit the moon, right?
You were taught that when setting goals you must challenge and frighten yourself. You might even have believed that a big, out-of-this-world goal would motivate you to succeed.
Unfortunately, goals are only motivational if you really, genuinely believe that you can achieve them.
When you are setting goals that you know deep down are impossible to achieve, you’re inviting stress, discouragement, and doubt into your life. You’re practically setting the scene for you not achieving your goals.

2. Desiring the Negative Aspect of What You Want

“I don’t want any more debt.”
“I’m getting rid of these love handles.”
“I’m no longer going to neglect my wife.”
Above are example of stating your desire in terms of the negative part of your goal.
To get what you want in life you must be setting goals that totally focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. If you only focus on what you don’t want, then you’re actually creating more of that in your life, and you subconsciously undermining your own confidence.
So, setting goals must be done in a way that focuses on a positive outcome or benefit, and that will help you with the achievement of what you want.

3. Blaming Others for Your Failure

Hey it’s pretty natural that our reaction to failure is irresponsibility.
And I get it! I’ve been there…Looking in the mirror when you fail is tough. Admitting that you’re 100% responsible for what happens in your life takes guts. Especially if you feel like a failure.
But, guess what?
It’s like your kindergarten teacher used to say – every time you point your finger at someone else, you point three fingers back at yourself. Avoiding responsibility won’t make your life any better; it only prolongs your suffering.

4. Procrastinating

Procrastination borders on an epidemic in our society today. Just about everyone procrastinates.
Or at least everyone around you procrastinates, right?
Procrastination may be a pervasive and persistent problem, however it has a very simple solution. After all, the opposite of procrastination is taking action. Nothing complicated about that. So, if you want to stop procrastinating, start taking action.
That should be that easy enough, right?
But, where many people go wrong is that you can’t just take action once. You must build the habit of action taking. Trust me on this, once you cross the action-threshold it does get easier and easier every time.

5. Lack of Vision

You can destroy your success if you don’t allow yourself to experience it ahead of time.
Sure you wrote your goals down on a piece of paper, you placed them somewhere visible so you could remind yourself all the time. But if you didn’t take the time to visualize and feel the positive feelings of having achieved your success, then it may all be for naught.
We all know our goals should motivate us but what most people miss is the visualization – living out every detail in your mind’s eye – this is an essential step to creating that motivation. Visualization is how you create the good feelings about your goal. Which brings us nicely to…

6. Feeling Bad

Have you ever doubted your ability to achieve your goal?
Have you been unsatisfied with your progress?
Maybe your goal just didn’t make you feel happy.
Either way, how you feel has a major impact on your success and productivity. Unfortunately, many people fail because they believe they cannot control their feelings, and your feelings determine your actions.
If this describes you, then maybe your life feels sporadic. Bipolar. Unpredictable. You probably feel like you have no control over your life’s direction, like nothing ever goes as planned.
To get what you want you must feel good when you think about it, because thoughts lead to feelings, which lead to actions…which give you the ultimate results!!!

So What’s the Next Step?

Avoiding these destructive habits is an important first step which will put you well on your way towards feeling good about your goals, which makes you happier, which takes you in an upward spiral towards more success.
However, if you want to jump-start your success and maximize your results, you may want to learn more about how to consistently experience positive emotions. This is vitally important, Napoleon Hill says in Think and Grow Rich “It is essential for you to encourage the positive emotions as dominating forces of your mind, and discourage – and eliminate negative emotions”
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Tuesday, January 20, 2015

Creative Manifesto

“The world without spirit is a wasteland. People have the notion of saving the world by shifting things around, changing the rules, and who’s on top, and so forth. No, no! Any world is a valid world if it’s alive. The thing to do is to bring life to it, and the only way to do that is to find in your own case where the life is and become alive yourself.” ~ Joseph Campbell  


1. We are editors of life. We cut and paste its daily beauty and pain with the sharp scissors of our minds on the canvas of humanity.
As human beings we can only assimilate the world through selective perception. The more we train our perception, the more aware we become of the world around us, in its light and darkness.
We turn into what we digest on a daily basis. Due to our spongy nature, we must absorb carefully.
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2. We regard Art as a dynamic matter of Now. Art is not just a museum affair. Objects are less than people and no work of art is ever finished. We are our own living collage of images, memories, experiences, relationships, thoughts and feelings.
As such, we must constantly make Art that is synonymous with Life, in order for it (for us) to keep on being art. By existing to our fullest potential we become our own greatest works of art. Whatever comes out of us is secondary to what’s already in us.
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3. Life is short and it’s running through our fingers. Our hour won’t come in some kind of imagined, distant or near future, our hour is happening this very moment. Wherever we are – or are at, we’d like to make it count.
Be here now. And now. And now. And now. And now…
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4. The only censorship we apply to ourselves is the kind that will censor other people’s genuine right to be whole.
Love the way you want to be loved and recognize a piece of you in every piece of life.
There are no strangers in this room. It’s just a bunch of Us. There are no tribes or constellations. Only lonely stars with a light of their own.
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5. Life is homemade, painful, intelligent and beautiful. We avoid nothing, we want it all.
As creators, healers and journalists it is our duty to curate reality and communicate it in our own, unique words. We don’t want the shortcut, we want to walk on water and walk on burning ashes.
Give us the whole package, even if it takes longer and it demands more. If we’re going to jump anyway off of life’s inevitable cliffs, we might as well pick the highest one and use our own heart as the only parachute.
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6. We long and steer toward the light but we don’t hide or get rid of the darkness. It’s only by accepting, integrating and finally reusing every bit of ourselves that we are able to meet and face life for what it is, in all its brightness and all the shadows it casts.
Fear is biodegradable fuel. We will never get rid of it, but we can recycle it into a more human-friendly version.
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7. There is no time for apathy or mindless distraction. We’re natural, organic, living tissue. We are the skin of a broken world and as living metaphors, we must reflect it in both its greatness and its desperation.
There’s so much good to do, much to be mended and healed. One lifetime isn’t enough and less than our everything is too little.
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8. We regard the human experience as an indivisible whole that includes all aspects of the human experience: physical, intellectual, relational, emotional and spiritual. We also recognize beauty and pain as the two common threads running through all of our life scripts.
For most of history, our different human elements have been divided, segregated, hidden, punished, misunderstood and ultimately, separated from the whole.
We want brains and beauty to make peace with each other, we want heart and mind to be friends, we want body and spirit to be a home to each other.
All our parts are created equal.
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9. Our virtuality is just the tip of our iceberg-humanity. We are so much more than our words and the speed of our fingers.
The internet is, perhaps, the only truly democratic medium left, which allows us to reach freely across countries and oceans, intolerance and preconceptions and dive straight into each other’s hearts.
Thanks to our online connection, we’re now reuniting with each other and, in a strange way, with ourselves. We’re just one click away, so close we almost hear each other breathing.
Beyond this screen we’re also flesh and bones, with broken hearts and sweaty hands. We must never mistake our frames for the whole picture, but use this virtual frame to better understand our real pictures: the real, complex, breathing You and Me and everyone we know.
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10.  Hey Frodo, it’s a lonely battle, and we need help taking the ring to Mordor. In this lifehouse, we collaborate, we share and e-hug daily. We can’t do this (or anything) alone. We need each other badly.
The only possible form of existence is co-existence. Beyond our own, unscripted individual stories, we’re part of a bigger, universal story to which we add every day with our thoughts and actions. We are responsible for the course of events and desperate status of our world.
When it comes to technology and communication, we’re at a place of synergy and synchronicity like never before. It is imperative that we make a mindful, heartfelt use of it.
Please hold my pixel hand, I promise you, the skin is there, even if you can’t touch it.
11. We know enough, we have enough, we are enough and we care enough to make it wonderful.
Now.

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