Setting Goals – 6 Destructive Habits You Must Avoid
Have you ever failed to achieve something because you were setting goals you could not achieve?
I know I have… many times… and it made me feel bad!!!
Like most other people I felt cheated when I failed in the past. I blamed other people, I made excuses.
I found it difficult to look in the mirror when I failed, and I didn’t recognize the true source of my failure – setting goals I could never reach.
Did you know that feeling really good (being happy) is a “forgotten ingredient” to being successful (and achieving all your goals)? I didn’t know that at first, but then my research led me to discover that setting goals (and achieving them) is something that happy people know how to do…
The way you go about setting goals will make or break your success (and happiness).
When setting goals there are 6 common destructive habits that we have been wrongly taught in the past. Which of these goal-destroying habits have kept you from success in the past?
1. Setting an Unreachable Desire
Ok so there is the old saying that if you want to succeed, then you need to shoot for the stars. After all, aim for the stars and miss you’re bound to maybe hit the moon, right?
You were taught that when setting goals you must challenge and frighten yourself. You might even have believed that a big, out-of-this-world goal would motivate you to succeed.
Unfortunately, goals are only motivational if you really, genuinely believe that you can achieve them.
When you are setting goals that you know deep down are impossible to achieve, you’re inviting stress, discouragement, and doubt into your life. You’re practically setting the scene for you not achieving your goals.
2. Desiring the Negative Aspect of What You Want
“I don’t want any more debt.”
“I’m getting rid of these love handles.”
“I’m no longer going to neglect my wife.”
Above are example of stating your desire in terms of the negative part of your goal.
To get what you want in life you must be setting goals that totally focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want. If you only focus on what you don’t want, then you’re actually creating more of that in your life, and you subconsciously undermining your own confidence.
So, setting goals must be done in a way that focuses on a positive outcome or benefit, and that will help you with the achievement of what you want.
3. Blaming Others for Your Failure
Hey it’s pretty natural that our reaction to failure is irresponsibility.
And I get it! I’ve been there…Looking in the mirror when you fail is tough. Admitting that you’re 100% responsible for what happens in your life takes guts. Especially if you feel like a failure.
But, guess what?
It’s like your kindergarten teacher used to say – every time you point your finger at someone else, you point three fingers back at yourself. Avoiding responsibility won’t make your life any better; it only prolongs your suffering.
4. Procrastinating
Procrastination borders on an epidemic in our society today. Just about everyone procrastinates.
Or at least everyone around you procrastinates, right?
Procrastination may be a pervasive and persistent problem, however it has a very simple solution. After all, the opposite of procrastination is taking action. Nothing complicated about that. So, if you want to stop procrastinating, start taking action.
That should be that easy enough, right?
But, where many people go wrong is that you can’t just take action once. You must build the habit of action taking. Trust me on this, once you cross the action-threshold it does get easier and easier every time.
5. Lack of Vision
You can destroy your success if you don’t allow yourself to experience it ahead of time.
Sure you wrote your goals down on a piece of paper, you placed them somewhere visible so you could remind yourself all the time. But if you didn’t take the time to visualize and feel the positive feelings of having achieved your success, then it may all be for naught.
We all know our goals should motivate us but what most people miss is the visualization – living out every detail in your mind’s eye – this is an essential step to creating that motivation. Visualization is how you create the good feelings about your goal. Which brings us nicely to…
6. Feeling Bad
Have you ever doubted your ability to achieve your goal?
Have you been unsatisfied with your progress?
Maybe your goal just didn’t make you feel happy.
Either way, how you feel has a major impact on your success and productivity. Unfortunately, many people fail because they believe they cannot control their feelings, and your feelings determine your actions.
If this describes you, then maybe your life feels sporadic. Bipolar. Unpredictable. You probably feel like you have no control over your life’s direction, like nothing ever goes as planned.
To get what you want you must feel good when you think about it, because thoughts lead to feelings, which lead to actions…which give you the ultimate results!!!
So What’s the Next Step?
Avoiding these destructive habits is an important first step which will put you well on your way towards feeling good about your goals, which makes you happier, which takes you in an upward spiral towards more success.
However, if you want to jump-start your success and maximize your results, you may want to learn more about how to consistently experience positive emotions. This is vitally important, Napoleon Hill says in Think and Grow Rich “It is essential for you to encourage the positive emotions as dominating forces of your mind, and discourage – and eliminate negative emotions”
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