Each day we have an inner dialogue that plays in our minds. The things we say to ourselves tend to repeat and eventually all those little thoughts make up the way we think about ourselves and our lives. Negative thoughts can even, unknowingly, pigeonhole and restrain us from achieving our goals. We become so accustomed to our own self-talk that we hardly notice the things we say to ourselves. If only we paid a little more attention to what’s going on in our heads, we might have more control over what goes on in our lives.
Observe
Spend one day being conscious of the thoughts that pop into your head. You might be shocked at how harsh and mean you are to yourself! Did you just hear yourself say that you can’t do something because you’re too overweight, lazy, or no one likes you!? We are so incredibly hard on ourselves. The worst part is, tearing ourselves down will never help us achieve the things we hope and dream for. Not to mention, negative self-talk makes any situation a lot worse than it actually is; which causes excess stress and conflict. Listen and be aware of all the negative and cruel things you say in your head; you may even want to write them down.
“It’s me who is my enemy, me who beats me up, me who makes the monsters, me who strips my confidence.” – Paula Cole
Stop in your tracks
Once you’ve spent some time observing your self-talk and you’ve taken notes of all the negative things you tell yourself, the next step is to start thinking differently. Each time you hear yourself say something negative in any way, stop dead in your tracks and think of 5-10 positive reasons why what you just said is not true. Motivate yourself! List all the things you are exceptional at and all the reasons why you absolutely can succeed. The key is to evict all the negative thoughts that have made cozy homes in your mind and replace them with positive and encourage thoughts.
Experiment
If you’re doubting whether your thoughts really have that big of an impact on your life, try an experiment. Start leveraging your thoughts to improve various situations in your life and see how changing your perspective changes the way things pan out. Speaking of experimenting, try out different types of self-talk and see what works best to motivate you each day. Once you figure out the best way to talk to yourself, strive to stay in that state of mind.
Practice
Inevitably, the first couple days, weeks and months will be the hardest. You are, essentially, re-wiring your brain to consider situations and yourself differently. Practice recognizing negative thoughts, dismissing them and continuing to replace them with thoughts that inspire, uplift and make you realize how wonderful and beautiful you are! Our thoughts are truly one of the most powerful tools at our disposal. We can ignore them and allow them to become stale and negative or we can take control and use them to propel ourselves forward in success and happiness. (Kyle Hunt)
Source: http://www.theabundanceproject.com/
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